- The burden of kids will bring out cultural feminist conditioning in your partner
Kids alter the reality of a woman dramatically, with no cultural support for them to do it properly. They quickly get overwhelmed and use the burden as leverage.
This will be your first test.
- Sleep deprivation is devastating
If you haven't mastered your sleep routine prior to kids, prepare for it to get a whole lot worse. I was a light sleeper, and I was destroyed from being woken up numerous times throughout the night by a needy baby.
Sleep environment is key.
- Every cry is solvable
I eventually realized crying was an evolved signal for help.
Often I had to dig for the cause. Some causes:
- Temp of the room
- Itchy polyester clothing and sheets
- Mom making milk with intolerances from diet
Cries were 100% valid in hindsight.
- Moms milk carries any intolerances from diet
Excessive burping and gas are signs mom is eating something that baby doesn't tolerate. Could be nefarious things like soymeal fed eggs, quinoa, various plants. Only with my heavy nutrition knowledge was I able to figure it out.
- Sleep deprivation will cause delirious fighting
Unless you have a clear framework to approach interactions/arguments with, fights spiral out of control due to sleep deprivation. Reason is barely working, just two very frayed people pouring out emotion.
Sleep is priority.
- Modern child rearing strategies come from 60s behaviouralists
Crying it out, scheduled meals and bed-times, etc are all engineering strategies from behaviouralists like BF Skinner. Children are evolved to fall asleep by circadian rhythm and to eat when they're hungry. Simple.
- Don't bother feeding kids until they are hungry
Want an overweight kid? Force feed them when they aren't hungry. You'll end up resorting to hyperpalatable foods.
Instead, just let them tell you when they are hungry and feed them.
"Sit at the table until done!" is stupid.
- Don't mash up plants and bullshit
Vegetables are garbage nutrition. There's a reason kids hate broccoli. If you aren't feeding them junk, they'll crave meats, bread, honey, dairy, fruit. Pastured bacon is superior to green mush.
Just figure out what they like. Easy.
- Kids will be used as leverage
You need to wise up to the female frame quickly. You need to understand how female instincts rule their behaviour under stress. If you don't, you'll become overburdened with taking care of the children.
You must handle guilting with authority.
- Boomer grandparents are pretty useless
You may be luckier than me, but for the most part boomergparents aren't around. The burden falls squarely on mom. The "it takes a village" sisterhood is largely a joke.
Make sure to guilt grandparents quickly for being selfish boomers.
- Your work will suffer if you don't get control
It takes a strong male frame to navigate the mess of the modern parenting environment. Feminist mothers, absentee grandparents, silly child rearing ideas will all overburden you away from your mission of making money.
- Buy everything that makes mom's life easier
Hire housecleaners, get air fryers, laundry folder, etc. Mom is overburdened because there's no village. Use earning to afford every luxury to make her life easier. It's unnatural how much falls on the modern mom with no help.
- Let your kids climb on shit
Seriously, kids are designed to CLIMB. If you want dainty kids with no physicality, make your house a place where they can't do anything. If you feed them lots of meat and let them climb, they'll be lean and strong.
- Potty training can be easy
If you wait about 3-6 months after you think you need to potty train, they have the competence to do it naturally. We just waited until it became easy.
Everyone's in such a panic about this shit. It's so much easier if you remove deadlines.
If you do all these things properly, having kids is a breeze.
Get this wrong, kids will destroy your momentum, destabilize your relationship, reduce your earning potential, and make you put on a ton of weight.
You can save the "this is bullshit" replies. You have no idea how affected you are by experimental modern theories. Show me a single ancestral tribe who follows this conventional bullshit.
There are none.
Follow the evolutionary design and it's easy.