7 Lessons from Men are from Mars Women are from Venus 1) Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed… Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished. 2) When our partner resists us it is probably because we have made a mistake in our timing or approach. 3) A man's deepest fear is that he is not good enough or that he is incompetent. 4) As a woman's financial needs are fulfilled she becomes more aware of her emotional needs. 5) The secret of empowering a man is never to try to change him or improve him. 6) Whether you share the feelings in your letter or you just write a letter to feel better, writing down your feelings is an essential tool. 7) Just as communication is the most important element in a relationship, arguments can be the most destructive element.